Thank you just doesn’t seem enough….

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It was October 2012 when I discovered Postpartum Progress – I’d been out of hospital for a year and although in recovery I felt very alone.

Alone, in what had happened to me, that no one really understood the depths of the despair and the very real heart ache that having been so unwell had left me with. It was like my constant companion along with the grief and guilt…

Then I found the wonderful site created by Katherine Stone – this was different to any other site I’d seen. For starters there was a photo of Katherine – she was real, her warm smile was so welcoming. It was regularly updated with relevant information and new posts all of which seemed to have points where I was nodding along… It gave me hope, particularly The 6 Stages.

I emailed Katherine to ask if she would take a photo of a UK survivor for the Warrior Moms Photo Album.

Her response was almost instant – “Are you kidding?! Of course I’ll take a photo from a UK survivor! We want to support women all over the world! I’ll be sure to add you. Thanks for reaching out to me!”

She thanked me for reaching out to her!

She thanked me…

I was so genuinely moved – I couldn’t believe it… We’ve kept in touch ever since.

I wasn’t sure what I was going to do with my experience but I was/am so inspired by her that it helped me to realise that I had to do something. So I’m an advocate and often I ask for her guidance.

Some would say that empathy and compassion cost nothing, but they do and to give yourself to all mothers every time… and for 10 years – WOW!

I’m in awe of how she does it and she does it with such beauty, grace and strength.

I cannot wait to meet her one day x

I know I’m not the only one in the UK to benefit from Postpartum Progress – we love you Warrior Mum-In-Chief x

HOPE is our four letter word x

Next weekend is going to be fabulous! Part 2 Climb Out of the Darkness

On Sunday 22 June 2014 I’m joining with three amazing women that I am so lucky to call friends.

We each had severe post natal illness after the birth of our children but what really brought us together was our passion to get the message out that recovery is possible!

We want to increase people’s understanding of these illnesses.

We can’t change what happened to us and perhaps some would say it would be easier to forget – we disagree! The anguish and pain that we suffered drives us to find purpose in our experiences. It’s also abundantly clear that there isn’t sufficient help out there and this needs to change.

It is estimated that 1 mother a week in the UK loses her battle with post natal illness!

For each of us, losing the battle was a real possibility.

This is personal for us but it’s personal for you too, if you have a sister, daughter or friend who may give birth or become a new parent…

Post natal illness does not discriminate – it can happen to anyone!

We are passionate about challenging the stigma which creates fear of disclosure for many new parents.

Each of our stories is here:

Eve

Jen

Kathryn

Me

So why Climb Out for Postpartum Progress.

There are numerous reasons but here are a few…

Katherine Stone is FIERCE – she is the Warrior-Mom-In-Chief and started the blog in 2004 – some of us found her blog in the US before we found support closer to home. I became the first UK Mum in the Warrior Moms Photo Album and receiving a personal response from Katherine during my recovery has always stayed with me.

Also half a million women annually are accessing up-to-date information in plain language about perinatal mood and anxiety disorders on the Postpartum Progress blog and, more importantly, are able to hear from other moms who have recovered. 

In 2011 Postpartum Progress Inc followed it is a non-profit organization and online community of support resources for women experiencing postpartum depression and all other mental illnesses related to pregnancy and childbirth.  The funds raised from this event will allow Postpartum Progress to create new educational materials to be used by obstetricians, paediatricians and others, as well as new materials to help educate the media on the public health impact of postpartum depression and related illnesses on mothers and children.

Climb Out of the Darkness is now the world’s largest event raising awareness of maternal mental illness. As of today, there are more than 120 different Climbs that will take place throughout the US, Canada, Switzerland, Australia and New Zealand.

On or around the longest day of the year in the Northern Hemisphere, survivors all over the world are organizing to climb or hike to symbolize their collective rise out of the darkness and stigma of maternal mental illness as well as to raise funds to support Postpartum Progress founded to help support moms around the world.

This is a global issue and we thought it important that the UK showed their support.

 COTD 2014

So our Climb is on Sunday 22 June at 10:30 and is very “London”! 

We’re climbing up the 320 steps at Hampstead Tube Station (the lowest station on London Underground)

Then we’re walking to Wembley Park Tube Station (2 hours+)

And then we travel to Amersham Tube Station (the highest station on London Underground)

If you would like to sponsor us you can do so here.

Next weekend is going to be fabulous! Part 1 BritMums Live 2014

I am beyond excited to be going to BritMums Live!

I felt that the opportunity to be surrounded by lifestyle bloggers and social influencers was not to be missed i.e. I want to be surrounded by the positivity and love I see daily in the blogosphere and twitterland!

Name: Beth

BlogBeth Bone (The musings of a London loving Mum…)

Twitter ID: @BB576

Height: Tall – 5ft 10ish

Hair: Brown bob

Eyes: Dark Brown but will be wearing glasses

Is this your first blogging conference? No, it’s my 2nd

Are you attending both days? Yes

What are you most looking forward to at BritMums Live 2014?

Meeting up with amazing people, whose writing I love!

In particular though I simply can’t wait to hug Jen – we managed to miss each other at mumsnet!

What are you wearing?

I sorted this on the 1 June (don’t ask…)

Joe Browns from Simply Be on both days!

(Fri: Atlantic Ocean Tunic with jeans/Sat: Marvellous Floral Maxi Dress)

What do you hope to gain from BritMums Live 2014?

I just want to learn more about blogging (my blog looks beautiful due to the wonderfully talented Helen but it needs content and regular updates).

The agenda is packed with great sessions!

I’ve picked in advance so that I don’t lose track on the day i.e. talk too much in the breaks!

Friday

How I Did It: Success stories from high-profile bloggers

The power blogging can bring to your life

Saturday

How To Be an Agent of Change; Advocacy and charity campaigns

Social media for advanced people

Collaboration: Working together for bigger traffic and larger impact

Beginning blogging

New ways to Monetise

Mama me-time

Looking forward to meeting new people and learning lots xxx

Meme: Desert Island Discs

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I’m so excited to have been tagged for this Desert Island meme by Mummy Tries. I really enjoy music and having to pick just a few songs has been challenging but a lot of fun! It also gave me a great reason to rediscover my iPod.

I picked 6!

That’s What Friends Are For

Written by Burt Bacharach and Carole Bayer Sager in 1982, it’s the cover version by Dionne Warwick and Friends. A one-off collaboration featuring Gladys Knight, Elton John and Stevie Wonder – I mean seriously – wow!
http://youtu.be/V22ahe9xzC4

This was the last song played at our wedding reception – everyone was in a large circle hand in hand – despite it being over 7 years ago I can still remember it so well. It was just a perfect ending to the best day.

You’ve Got a Friend

I grew up listening to Carole King’s Tapestry album – it was definitely one of my Mum’s favourites. Watching her and James Taylor perform this together in 2010 during their Troubadour Reunion Tour has really stuck with me.
http://youtu.be/sIMJBDj_JkE

Make you feel my love

This is a song written by Bob Dylan a fact I didn’t know before compiling the list! The version I’ve chosen is by Adele it was on her amazing album 19 but her performance of it at the Royal Albert Hall ensured it was on my list. She’s such an honest performer and the whole concert is well worth a look.
http://youtu.be/xweqsdRpG9Y

Lightning

Just a happy bit of boy band pop – I was/am a massive Take That fan but Westlife/Boyzone/JLS you name it really…
http://youtu.be/glukfeQJzF4

The reason this particular song made the list is because it brings back a really happy memory. When I was unwell in 2011, I asked my Dad what he wanted for his 70th birthday that was at the start of the following year. His response was simple and honest “I just want you to be well”. At the time I thought that was totally bloody impossible but it wasn’t – we did lots to celebrate his 70th but the memory of dancing round in my brother’s kitchen all of us together with his grandchildren still gives me goose bumps.

(Something Inside) So Strong

Written and recorded by singer-songwriter Labi Siffre in 1987. The song was inspired by a TV documentary on Apartheid South Africa seen by Siffre in 1985 in which a white soldier was filmed shooting at black children.
http://youtu.be/7B-4Lsrx8IA

F.E.A.R.

So I nearly picked a track by The Stone Roses but every time I listen to this song I hear something new. The video was also directed by Ian Brown and it is in London (I Love London). The song incorporates a creative lyric scheme where each verse forms the acrostic “F.E.A.R.” (for example, “For each a road” and “Fallen empires are ruling”). I’m in awe of the hundreds of acronyms created from the word “fear”.
http://youtu.be/8f8wAXDZ9D0

So that’s my 6!

Now I’m passing it on to the beautiful and talented ladies at Silver Linings Project, Mummy Kindness and milkwithtwo.